Time to talk about the meat of your profile.
WORDS
The first sentence of your profile is your “product placement”, your “sales pitch”, your one shot to catch a woman’s attention.
You have less than three seconds to make them swipe or lose them forever! Remember, YOU are the product.
Your sexual attractiveness makes you an object of desire! Is it objectifying? Of course is it! All of us do this, it is natural; stop being a hypocrite and stop lying to yourself. Sexual chemistry and acceptance (and a lot of rejection) is normal, natural, and just part of the dating process, get used to lots of rejection!
Don’t bother to write details that are available in the stats section. A limited amount of text space is available! Make that text funny, sexy, cool, cute, comfortable, or any other descriptor that fits you and describes you in real life.
Use your words! Really, put some effort into this it is basically just a paragraph or two! Put some useful information in your presentation or express your creativity. Women want to be wooed, or at least pretend there is some woo, she is not a project or something you can find a step by step operators manual on.
Remember my advice about not putting pictures from your last fishing trip on your profile? Describe it, instead. Which of these two statements do you think a woman will swipe right on? “I like fly fishing”, can be “Imagine the morning sun glistening in undulating patterns on the crystal clear water of a mountain stream, this is my escape from the stress of the adult world” one obviously works MUCH better.
A descriptive profile is the foundation for romantic communication. Words will win over women more than off color pictures of your naughty bits! In fact the only time it is ok for any questionable pics is after you have had sex and she specifically requested naughty business.
Also, double (triple) check your profile’s text for any words or phrases that even hint at anything that can be perceived as “bitter”. It will trigger a gut level “creep/danger” reaction and she will swipe left faster than she can say “jerk”! Anything that can be seen as a negative instead of a positive, has no place in your profile!
DEMANDS
Avoid creating a laundry list of demands at all costs. Remember, this is a buyers market and you are competing with hundreds (if not thousands) of men for that ideal woman!
That means you need to stop being self-centered and unaware. She doesn’t care if some random Joe on the internet was divorce-raped by his ex-wife. She doesn’t care if you think you are God’s Greatest Gift to Women. Porn is not real; she is a living person. Indulging in the typical “Jerk” male stupidity, is deadly in the market. Again, reality sucks.
Again - women don’t give a flying noodle about what you want! YOU are the product, this is a buyers market and the products (you) do not demand from potential buyers. You have competition. What do you bring to the table? Everyone is looking for something they like; everyone is looking for what they want. What you want has no attractive value for the people reading your Bumble profile.
ALGORHYTHIMS
The computer algorithms watch every move you make! Men typically swipe right as much as possible to find matches, which doesn’t always work to their advantage. But with a small adjustment to your swiping habits, you can make the algorithms work for you, instead of against you
What’s the trick? Start swiping like women! Be picky, and only choose what you know you will be interesting based on the info and pics provided. Do not waste your time or her’s if you know it just will not work out! Be realistic. Swiping every female to find your match is not giving you the best rating via the algorithms, and you should know when you are swiping a profile that won’t be a good fit for you. Swiping in a targeted way actually raises your presentation value in any app - not just Bumble. How you swipe, how others swipe you and how many conversations and how long they are (or closing success) plays a part in your placement on Bumble.
While we’re on the subject, let me make a note on the for-pay features. If you really want to maximize your efforts on Bumble, you should think about subscribing. This will give you the ability to see who swipes your first - a pool of potential dates that are already interested in your profile, with the potential for a higher match rate!
SUGAR
A note on sugar babies and chat/photo prostitution; yes there are lots of younger women advertising on-line sex, and pay-for-attention services. There are a large selection of websites and apps for this. Bumble is NOT that place; advertising for services and prostitution is against the user rules. Do your part to help clean up the app by directly blocking and reporting any sugar-daters, cam-girls (prostitutes) and pay-for-play. They DO NOT belong on Bumble. Report them all!
SUMMARY
Still standing? Back still straight? Good. Remember - congruency in everything you present. Both men and women lie like a divorce lawyer (you should know all about that!) So to beat your competition you must be bluntly and unreservedly accurate in your profile, crafting and curating with great skill and cunning. Anything less will only be a waste of your time, talents, and get in the way of meeting your ideal match!
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